camillabrightside

I am not married so don't bite my head off! I went to one wedding when i was a kid (i'm in my 20's now)...i always wonder these things:1. are the parents of bride or groom still expected to pay for the wedding or is that old fashioned?2. when u send invitation to whomever do u always assume they will bring a guest/date or is the invite just for 1 person? do people ever go to weddings alone?3. okay, after the couple leave the reception and go to lets say Hawaii for honeymoon - do they leave right away? does she wear her dress on the plane, to the hotel lol...4. kids - can u have a wedding with all adults? what about guests that have kids - do u have to invite them?5. do u have to have open bar? is it tacky n' cheap if you don't?6. maid of honor - is her dress supposed to be different from the other bridesmaids? how do u choose maid of honor I have 1 older sis and 2 female best friends7. is every 1 invited to the wedding invited to the receptionlol - thanks*an add on to Question 4 - is it considered rude NOT to invite the kids?

RaulG

it alldepends on both of u all traditions

LarryS

There are many ediquate"sp" books that can answer those as well as many other questions much better than I can. they are not dumb questions.

Princess1124

1. I'm not sure what's expected...but my mom just busted out a ton of money for my sisters wedding...2. usually you write on the invitation for mr.so and so and guest...so they have the option of bringing someone because no one likes to go to weddings alone3. most couples don't leave for the honeymoon until the next day..sometimes even a couple days later...plenty of time to change4. most adults with kids will bring them to the wedding...but for the reception will leave them home with a babysitter5. you don't have to have an open bar...but it's always nice6. the dress can be different..but most of the time they are all the same...just depends on what the bride wants...and maid of honor is usually your sister..or who ever you are very close with7. and if you are invited to the wedding you are invited to the reception as wellhope that was helpful

MichaelH6480

No such thing a 'dumb questions', only dumb people that ask questions...Just kidding.1) old etiquette left the financial responsibility of paying for the wedding to the parents of the bride. As time passed, this has changed, and for the msot part, many couple are paying for their own wedding, and getting 'some' help from ALL the parents.2) It is polite to assume that your guest will bring a date/guest. Remember to count kids when you invite families.3) Most honeymoons don't happen immediately, so there is pl;enty of time to change out of the dress.4) You CAN have a wedding without kids, but you have to make it EXPLICITLY clear in the invitations, you also have to be diplomatic about it as well5) If you are on a budget, it is not tacky to have a cash bar at the reception. If you are doing a cash bar just because you are cheap??? Well, that might fall into the tacky category6) The maid of honor is usually distiniguised somehow from the other brides maids, something as simple as a different color hairpiece etc. Picking one? That's a tough one, I will defer that answer...7) again, etiquette says that those invited to be witnesses to the wedding should also be invited to party at the reception.

me9525

1) Typically the parents of the bride pay by tradition...it doesn't have to work like this if you don't want. My husband and I paid for most of our wedding and all parents contributed a bit.2)On your invites you should add "and partner"if you don't know the partners name...and get them to R.S.V.P by a given date so you know exactly how many will attend.3)Generally after the reception you can stay a night at a Hotel...to consummate the marriage...hehehe and fly out the day after or whenever you want.4)You don't have to invite the children, simply don't include their names on the invites if you don't want children. If the parents really want the children to attend then they need to ask you.5)At our wedding we had red and white wine available and full strength and light beer, orange juice and soft drinks available for our guests....any liqueurs they had to purchase themselves.6)The maid of honors dress may be the same as the other girls...but you can give her different accessories or flowers etc. If you find it hard to choose then default to your older sister.7)Generally it is most polite to invite everyone who attends the ceremony to the reception.

jonjonsgirl

1. yes-old fashioned. but some parents want to help. 2. If they can bring a date you address the invitation to : John Doe and guest. If they cannot then just address to John Doe but he probably wont want to come alone unless he has family/friends coming. If they are single you really should allow them to bring a date3. many leave right away. many leave and go to a hotel for the night and then go where ever they are going the next morning. I have seen brides leave in their dress and I have seen some change before leaving.4. You dont have to invite kids. If you dont want kids then on the invitation put something like "adult only reception to follow" personally I do not like that but whatever you want, others wont like it either and may not come if they cant bring their kids5. No, its not tacky n cheap if you dont have an open bar. It may be tacky to have the cash bar in the room. many people will have the reception at a country club or hotel that has a cash bar in another room. many will have wine available but cash bar for anything else.6. the maid of honors dress is usually the same but could be different if thats what you want. anything goes these days. I would chose your sis as your maid of honor and friends as the bridesmaids7. yes, everyone invited to the wedding should be invited to the reception.

dpanic27

1. It is still common for the parents to pay for at least part of the wedding, if it is both peoples first but not required. I've had plenty of friends that have paid for their own weddings.2. Every invitation should be for someone plus a date. However if you are wondering how many are actually coming you should request invitees RSVP.3. Usually when the couple leave the reception they are not going straight to the airport but home or to a hotel to change and pack for their honeymoon. If the couple is going directly to the airport from the reception it is common to change clothes before leaving.4. Yes you can have a wedding without kids, but it is more common to provide a nursery for guests with children to leave their kids with. If you don't want to then just state on the invites that children are not welcome (you'll probably tick off their parents though)5. You do not have to have an open bar, but I think it is tacky and cheap if you don't.6. You can have your wedding party dress however the hell you like. It's the bride's day she get to decide what the wedding party will wear.7. Yes if they are invited to the wedding they are invited to the reception unless you tell them on the wedding invitations that the reception is a private party by special invitation only.

rainbowreggie

1. It depends on the beliefs of the bride and groom and their parents. Some parents go fifty fifty. Traditionally, the bride's parents pay for everything but the flowers, which are taken care of by the groom's parents. There are also a lot of couples who pay for it themselves since more people are marrying in their late twenties and early thirties and have the financial means to do so.2. If you're ok with the person bringing a guest you say address the invitation to "Mr. /Miss Soandso and Guest". Tons of people go to weddings alone, it's a great way to meet people. Didn't you see "Wedding Crashers"?3. It all depends on the bride and groom! My husband and I changed at my parents house and then went to the hotel (we left the following morning for Hawaii). One thought I had was to wear my dress to the hotel and then have someone pick it up at the front desk after we left. Some brides want to wear their dress on their wedding night because they think it's sexy to have their new husband take it off of them.4. Yes! If you don't want kids at the wedding, you put a little note at the bottom of the invitations that says "No children, please" and only put the adults' names on the invitation. If you want children, it's nice to put their names on the invitation to make them feel special or you can address it to "The Soandso Family" to make it clear that everyone's invited.5. No, you don't need an open bar, you don't even need a reception with a full meal. Especially today, it is probably safer to either have a limited open bar (only the first hour or so) or none at all to ensure people get home safely.6. The maid of honor's dress is only different if the bride wants it to be so that everyone knows who she is. As far as picking the lucky girl, there are a few factors. First of all, the bride's parents may have an opinion that it should be the bride's sister. If your parents don't care who the maid of honor is then you have something else to think about. The maid of honor has a TON of responsibilities both during and before the wedding. She has to be someone who can not only support the bride emotionally but can also make sound decisions about the wedding in the bride's place to alleviate stress. That being said, she has to be someone the bride utterly and completely trusts, not just a BFF.7. No. Guests are only invited to the reception of their invitation says that they are, such as "Reception to follow at 2:00 at a restaurant". If the invitation doesn't say anything about a reception then the person isn't invited. It's a lot easier to just invite everyone to the reception to prevent people calling and having to explain to them that they are not invited to the reception. A reception can also be held after the couple gets back from the honeymoon and separate invitations can be sent out. That way it's clear who is and isn't invited.Hope this helps!

gileswench3849

There is absolutely nothing dumb in not being informed about the intricacies of wedding etiquette. Information is available all around, and here is a good place to start. For one thing, you'll learn that there are very few absolutes in wedding planning, and that nearly everybody seems to have a slightly different list of them.So let's take these one at a time and I'll give you my answers.1: The parents of the bride used to be expected to pay for nearly everything connected with the wedding. Some parents still wish to do so, but it is no longer automatically expected. My advice to women asking about this is usually to work out a wedding budget based on what she and her fiance can afford to put toward it and not expect anything of their parents until it is specifically offered to them.2: Never expect your guests to be able to read your mind. If you wish to invite single guests to bring along a date or friend, either ask them who they wish to bring and send that person an invitation, too, or else direct it to 'Jane Doe and Guest.' If you do not put 'and Guest,' Jane does not get to bring a guest. Yes, people do go to weddings alone every day. I've done it plenty of times and never had a bad time because of that, yet.3: It used to be the standard thing for couples to change into travelling clothes at the reception and then head straight for a train or a plane. A few couples still do that. More often now, brides and grooms want to be there for the whole party they planned and paid for. Others just don't want to add to the stress of the day by worrying about when they need to be at the airport and what the traffic is going to be like. Most couples now at least spend the wedding night in town, often at the hotel where the reception is held or in their own home.4: Yes, you may have a wedding without inviting children. You simply invite the guests you wish to have attend. It is then up to them whether they choose to accept the invitation, and to arrange child care if they choose to come to the wedding.5: No, you not have to have an open bar. But anything you do serve, you need to pay for. Once a guest walks into your party, they should not have to pay for anything at all. Open bar, just beer and wine, one champagne toast, or totally alcohol-free, it's up to the bride and groom how they wish to handle it. Consider your personal beliefs and your pocketbooks, and make your decision from there.6: The maid of honor may have a slightly different dress than the other attendants, or she may not. That's up to the bride. If you have multiple ladies you're equally close to, pick the one you think is most responsible, or the one most closely related to you.7: That's usually by far the best, yes.I hope you found this helpful.