maimwana

we have achild together who will be two in a few weeks.she hasnt seen her father yet. i left while i was pregnant because of the economic and political situation in my country, i wanted my baby to have the best so i travelled to europe.its been over 2 years and he seems to have lost interest in me. i cant get myself tomove on and i dont see myself with anyone else. i cnat go back because i cant afford the air fare and he says he will send the air fare but he has been procrastinating so bacically, im stuck here with the babyand he is back in africanwith someone else who by the way has a baby from some other man.i dont want to give up on him because i love him very much. before i left we had discussed about him coming here but since coming here he has refusedto join us.this situation seems impossible and i just want us to be family.i dont mind going back to the hardships back home, as long as my daughter grows up in a family setting where there's a mom and dad. what should i do?

Frinn

I am sorry to hear about your sad situation, but I also think you need to consider what is best for you and your baby. This man does not sound like he wants to be responsible. I cannot guess why, maybe he doesn't have the money to send to you, or maybe in the 2 years he fell out of love with you and found another woman. I cannot guess why, but his behaviour makes it clear that he does not want to be with you.So you need to stop punishing yourself. Find a life that is what is best for you and your child. Do not trick yourself into thinking that the hardships back home would not effect your daughter. What would be better for her...to live in a country with political and financial freedom, with 1 parent, or back in your counrty with all the strife, with 1 loving mother and 1 father who isn't interested?I know it is a hard life, but you sound like a strong woman, and that is what your daughter needs the most.Good luck to you!