beatjugglez

My cousin/best friend is 12 weeks pregnant. She was having twins but one of them didn't make it so now she has a singleton. Anyway, the deceased fetus hasn't been absorbed by her body yet and her doctor is worried about the other baby possibly getting infected. Now here is the clincher...she is a Geologist and has to travel to Ghana in a few weeks and is going against her doctors wishes. Not only is she going to Ghana, but she will also be going to Mexico, South Africa and Holland. She will be traveling between her home in Houston TX and all these countries between two weeks from now and Christmas. These trips are optional, and her company has told her that she isn't obligated to go..but she's still going. She calls me up crying because she's so worried about her baby yet she's taking these risky trips to third world countries against her doctor's advice. (and without a Malaria vaccine b/c pregnant women can't get live vaccines. Anyway, I don't know what to tell her. I think she'sbeing extremely selfish for putting her career before her unborn child. I feel morally obligated to say something, but I'm unsure as to what. Any ideas? Or do I just mind my own buisness and say nothing?

beastseeksbeauty

yes. i think that you should put ur child before u.

BboyInthemaking4707

oh wow you gotta fool on your hands , just MAKE her stay, don't let her go off, come on man this is a life that we're talking about

BboyInthemaking4707

You need to have a serious talk with her and tell her if she cares anything about her kids than she needs to stay where she's at.

beastseeksbeauty

I think that u should just tell her straight out because u r really worried about her and her baby so just tell her what u think and she may then take it in consideration. Just make sure so be gentle with her...

beachgirl5628

have a serious talk with her. Tell her that youre not trying to be nosy or impose in her ife, but that you are seriously worried about what risks these trips can be for her unborn child...tell her to think about what's best for the child..

BeachBum3012

Say something! She's not obligated to go, her job told her she doesn't need to, her doctor advised her NOT to go. These are all signs that she probably should not go. She's already lost one baby does she really want to risk losing the only one left? Tell her to think of her babies, not herself. It's only going to be HER fault if something happens to her remaining baby. Then how is she going to feel for going on an unnecessary trip? Tell her she's being ridiculous and selfish.

be

She may be grieving the loss of the one baby and not thinking straight. Maybe trying to escape. If she really cares about the life of her living baby she shouldnt go and risk it's life as well. I'd encourage her to talk to a counselor (maybe a crisis line) and work through her decision instead of jumping into it. If she's so irresponsible now about her baby's life... then perhaps she's just not ready to be a mom. Oh, if the airline finds out about her condition... she may be barred from being allowed to fly with them, meaning she could get stranded in a 3rd world country with an infection that could kill her. Good luck talking with her about it.

BeachBum8529

As a family member and her bestfriend you have all the right in the world to feel concerned and worried about her wellbeing along with her childs. Speak with her, and try to convince her. That fact that she was crying shows how upset she is and worried about the outcome. Explain to her the cause and effects. Seriously, b/c wants she flies off thats it. God bless.

Bea

ask her if she's ever seen a child that should be playing sports and games being pushed in a wheel chair everywhere it has to go, sitting still and extra erect with no control over body movements ...that could happen.